As a Senior Backend Engineer at HaveYouMet, Inc., you will anchor our technical architecture for a consumer product with AI at its core. You’ll design and scale serverless services, integrate LLMs, and make critical infrastructure decisions. Your work will directly enable users to move from digital swiping to meaningful, real-world connections.
Backend Engineer at HaveYouMet, Inc.
HaveYouMet, Inc. is an NYC-based startup on a mission to end endless swiping by using AI to facilitate real-world dates, and they are looking for a Senior Backend Engineer with over 10 years of experience to anchor their architecture. By joining this small, self-owned team, you will have the unique opportunity to own the backend strategy, integrate advanced LLMs, and receive meaningful equity while building a product that helps people find genuine human connection through high-level technical decisions and mentorship of an AI-focused team in a fast-growing consumer tech environment.
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Location
Remote (United States)
Compensation
Not Disclosed + Equity
Company
HaveYouMet, Inc.
Role overview
HaveYouMet, Inc. is an AI-driven dating company that operates a mobile application designed to create meaningful, real-world connections between singles by minimizing online chat and focusing on getting users to in‑person dates quickly.[1][3][5][8] The platform uses artificial intelligence to handle matchmaking and logistics—such as suggesting date venues and coordinating meeting details—based on user preferences, allowing users to concentrate on the offline experience rather than extended digital conversations.[1][3][5][8] Branded as HYM, the service emphasizes genuine, in‑person interactions, safety guidance for meeting dates, and a paradigm shift away from typical swipe-based online dating toward curated, confidential, and connection‑forward encounters.[1][3][16]
What you will do
- Design, scale, and maintain backend architecture using Node.js, Firebase Cloud Functions, and serverless technologies to support growing user traffic.
- Integrate advanced LLM and ChatGPT capabilities into the core product to automate date planning and enhance personality-based matching algorithms.
- Mentor the current engineering team on backend best practices while making pivotal calls on infrastructure and tooling for the company.
Who this is a fit for
- Over 10 years of experience building and shipping production-scale backend systems with a focus on high-reliability and performance.
- Proven track record of owning architecture decisions and scaling consumer-facing services within a fast-paced, high-growth startup environment.
- Deep proficiency in Node.js, Python, or Go, coupled with a strong understanding of serverless infrastructure and complex API design.
Why this role is remarkable
- Lead technical direction at an early-stage startup with a direct line to the founder and high impact on product strategy.
- Work on a mission-driven product that uses AI to solve the loneliness epidemic by facilitating authentic IRL dating experiences.
- Shape the backend of a high-growth consumer platform with substantial equity and complete ownership of the technical stack.
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